When You Care Enough . . . you can change the world!

Okay, I admit it—I’ve been watching sappy Hallmark Christmas movies ever since Thanksgiving! Never mind that the entire plot, climax, and resolution are obvious within the first ten minutes of the movie—I still love the “feel-good” atmosphere of hope that comes with the viewing. And apparently, so do the over 500 million viewers who watch the movies right along with me.

Honestly, though, it’s the Hallmark commercials that have snagged my attention this year.  Talk about knowing how to create an emotional response! And the company has been doing this since they were founded in 1910. In fact, the slogan, “When you care enough to send the very best,” was coined in 1944!

This Christmas they’ve outdone themselves. It’s turned into a campaign to encourage small acts of kindness that can make a big difference. The commercials are tear-jerkers: friends lifting a guy in a wheelchair above the concert crowd so he can see and participate, a dad impacting his son by pushing a woman’s car out of the snow, a young man attending his first Christmas dinner with his girlfriend’s family—starting awkwardly but ending with warmth—and so much more. Truly, they move me more in 60 seconds than the movies do in two hours.

The slogans go like this: When you care enough to . . .

. . . lift a spirit . . . show the way . . . be their hero . . . spread hope . . . give to a stranger . . . come together  . . . share your story.

And they all end with . . . you can change the world!

I don’t begrudge Hallmark the income they made from selling their cards. After all, not everyone is adept at putting into words what they feel, and the wordsmiths at Hallmark have a gift for capturing exactly the right expressions of love, thanks, and comfort.

And every human being is wired for story. Even greater, we’re created to live a life of meaning, to know that our lives matter in the big picture. Hallmark wasn’t the first to show us that meaning comes from caring—tangibly doing something to help someone else. Jesus taught that it’s more blessed to give than to receive, and that it’s through giving our lives away we truly gain a full life.

Our call as followers of Jesus Christ is to show not only how much we care, but also how much He cares. We do this at home, at work, in our communities, and abroad. Not every act of kindness directly changes a life, much less the world. But there is a cumulative effect as we keep acting. Our kindness can do more than change the world; it can change eternity.

How? Imagine a hungry child praying alone at night, asking God if He’s real, and imploring Him if He is, to please send food. Picture a child caring for sick parents asking for the chance to go to school and build a brighter future. Really see the elementary-aged girl who has been raped and mistreated, questioning God’s love. Then be part of bringing God’s answer to those children in the form of food, schooling, and godly relationships. Past mere feeling, our action lets them experience God’s love and goodness.

I’ve enclosed a page to show what you can do for our Swazi children. I believe everyone loves helping. And just like Hallmark helps us “say” what we feel when we don’t always know how to word it, we also want to provide ways you can change a child’s world—and eternity—in case you would love to do that, but just aren’t sure how to get started.

Will you, your family, or your small group become part of the “care enough” team this year?

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Tracy and I wish you a very “Caring” Christmas — and a world-changing New Year!

Much love—Becky Spencer and Family

(Since some of you have known us for decades, I’ve included updates on our              growing family again. Thank you for the prayers and love you’ve shown to all of us!

Below that, you’ll see pictures of the work in Swaziland and details on what’s next–and how you can be part of the team!)


sara's fam 2017

Sara is still the salon manager at Ulta Beauty in Hutchinson. She loves doing hair and ULTA keeps her up on all the latest trends, which keeps her artistic skills at the forefront. Danny is still working as a worship pastor for Crosspoint Church, Sterling Campus, while he finishes training for his new career as a police officer for the City of Hutchinson. When he graduates from the police academy January 26th, he will be working a couple weekends out of each month, so he will switch to volunteer status worship leading at the Hutchinson campus. Judah (7th grade) loves playing trumpet in jazz band. Nora (5th grade) still loves art and plays trumpet and piano. Silas (third grade) enjoys singing at all times and also plays piano. We’re still so incredibly thankful they’re back in Kansas!

polly's fam 2017

Polly and her family are still in Haven, Kansas.  She is working as an EMT there, plus still driving a school bus. In Jan., she’ll start classes to become a paramedic. Josh is facing another back procedure, so he’s doing custom cutting temporarily. MacKenzie (8th grade) volunteers at Reins of Hope (therapeutic horseback riding). Ethan (8th grade) loves sports; if you can kick it, hit it, or throw it, he’s playing it!  Savannah (6th grade) enjoys riding her bike around town with her friends. (Don’t keel over at the fact that I actually got a photo with the parents in the picture!  It’s almost a year old and was taken under duress!  Haha!)

jeri's fam 2017

(Jeri is holding the baby; her Junior and Luressa are to her left.) Jeri found that providing care for people in their homes was an emotional strain after baby Claira Mae’s long illness and passing. So she’s got a part-time job and picks up some cleaning or yard work where she can. Always a hard worker! She was the first to call to let me know that her birth dad was denied parole again for another three years. Junior (13 yrs.) is still in a school for special needs, and Luressa (6th grade) plays clarinet in the school band, which was also Jeri’s instrument as a kid. The older children are now 17 and 15, and I can’t help but hope that when Elizabeth turns 18 in February, perhaps she’ll read the letter I placed in her adoption file, inviting her to contact us if she’d like to connect. I’ve longed for her and Andrew for almost 15 years.  Meanwhile we’re incredibly grateful for the love they’ve found in their forever family, even while we look to the God who does wonderful redemptive miracles!

nathan's fam 2017

Nathan is wrapping up his last semester at the local junior college and will begin classes at Ft. Hayes in January. He is in transition to become the administrator at Sunshine Meadows Retirement Community here in Buhler. He is still serving as an associate pastor at Victorious Life Church, where he and Diana keep providing amazing leadership to the youth. He’s been free from addictions for over 13 years now. Thank You, Lord Jesus! Diana is the clinic RN at Bluestem Pace in McPherson, which is a program that keeps seniors safe and independent in their own homes.

All four kids are passionate about music. Gabe (10th grade) is in choir and plays trumpet in pep band, marching band, and jazz band. He’ll travel with the band to Washington, DC in the spring. He also plays basketball. Caleb (6th  grade) plays trombone at school and has started piano lessons—and even talked me into teaching him a song on the guitar last week (It didn’t take much convincing!  Haha!). He loves skateboarding, video games, and making youtube videos. Jordan (4th grade) loves to sing and recently joined Young Women in Harmony; she also takes piano lessons and loves making new friends..  Josiah (3), better known as JoJo, still loves sports and can really handle a ball. He also loves reading books and singing.

ben's fam 2017

Benjamin and his family are still living in Michigan, near Amy’s family. Ben continues his service as the Worship Minister/Student Creative Arts Minister at Southpoint’s Huron campus. He is still writing lots of songs and has a new hobby of building things. Amy is still a part-time x-ray technician at the hospital, while embracing motherhood. She’s very active helping Ben with youth activities. Moriah (just turned 4) is in preschool (loves it!) and is definitely their little actress. Selah is a 20-month-old sweetheart, saying lots of words and loving her baby dolls—but not as much as she loves her big sissy!

ashley's fam 2017

Ashley and Brian moved to Little River, Kansas, recently. Brian was laid off from Gregory’s a few months ago, and it was challenging for him to find steady work. He was finally hired by Lowen’s Sign Co in Hutchinson, and Ashley is working at the grocery store in Little River. Ayden (4th grade) is as sweet as they come; he shares his time equally at Ashley’s and his birth dad’s. He,  Alyssa (2nd grade), Alex (1st grade), and London (3) were joined by baby Jupiter in July.  This picture was taken in November at Inman Mennonite after this sweet baby girl was dedicated to the Lord.  Pastor Mike, who has discipled Brian for the past year, took the Inman pastorate, and we’re so grateful he’s still close enough to be involved in their lives.  It’s been a bumpy year, but the Lord is holding them in the palm of His hand as they continue to look to Him.

Justin is still living in Oklahoma, and we haven’t had much contact with him this year.  We know that he and his girlfriend Whitney are expecting a baby girl in a few weeks.

His ex-mother-in-law Tammy still has custody of the children, and she and her husband Bill are doing a fantastic job! Addisyn (4th grade) has the honor of being the Kindness Ambassador at her school. She welcomes new kids, shows them around, and does community outreach projects. She is part of the All Star Chorus and was selected to perform with the Circle the State with Song chorus—really loves to sing!  Nathan Wray (1st grade) absolutely loves playing football, and it looks like he’ll be fast like his daddy was. He’s planning to play baseball next. He loves to cook, and in fact, both kids prepared dishes for me when I visited them in May, and they made 99% of their family’s Thanksgiving meal! They live in Norman, Oklahoma, and I’m so thankful Tammy and Bill make sure we get to see them as often as possible!

anna's fam 2017

Anna, her husband Ben, and baby Eliza are living with us here in Buhler temporarily. She’s training to be the general manager at Family Video in Hutchinson, and he is working for Webcon, doing commercial roofing. Eliza (9 months) showed up a month early in February—when Tracy and I were in the middle of the ocean and couldn’t be with them!  Anna had an emergency c-section because of pre-eclampsia, which is more common in diabetics.  Eliza spent her first days in the NIC unit at Wesley in Wichita, with one issue being weaned off Anna’s insulin. Even coming so early, she weighed 8 lbs, 9 oz (also common when the mama has diabetes).Ben  has amazed us by the way he helps with Eliza’s care—great daddy!  And the love these three have for each other blesses our hearts every day. They attend Crosspoint Church in Hutchinson.

our fam 2017

This year Tracy and I celebrated our 41st anniversary, 9 years of operating the bed and breakfast, 11 years since founding Grand Staff Ministries, and 23 years of his work at Takako America. Grand Staff Thrift Boutique in downtown Buhler has been open for over 2 years now (more updates below). Kalos Christian Fellowship still meets in our home for now, and we’re each growing as we explore what it means to follow Jesus more fully. It still seems that we’re to keep it small and simple for now, and we continue to seek the Lord’s direction so we don’t rush ahead, nor lag behind His plans.

Our 27th grandchild is due shortly, and she’ll break the tie between the girls and boys, currently at 13 each.  The girls will have it.  Maybe someone will feel pressured to let the boys catch up.  J  Seriously, I never could have imagined this much love. So thankful!

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Grand Staff Thrift Boutique has been incredibly blessed as the Lord sends amazing volunteers, donations, and customers! Paula Wiens (above) started as our new manager late November, willing to serve in a continued volunteer capacity. I’m incredibly grateful that her leadership will allow me to gradually step back from spending so much time at the boutique so I can focus on other ministry tasks. We had a booth at the Kansas State Fair in September, which helped with visibility. Profits from the store help us cover ongoing monthly expenses on the care site in Swaziland, with enough to also contribute to the building projects. Jan. – Mar. is the slower season, so in order to progress, the feeding kitchen/preschool building will need additional resources besides thrift boutique sales.

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Hannah Ball (left) accompanied me to Swaziland last January, and she is raising funds to answer the call for a 2-year term there with Grand Staff Ministries. The other woman who planned to go had some family situations that showed her it isn’t time for her to leave the country, so we’re eagerly praying for that space to be filled.  We just can’t send Hannah alone, even though her heart is already there. We really do need someone on the ground for maximum effectiveness. Please pray and share this opportunity. I believe we are just one conversation, email, Facebook share, or any kind of connection God decides to use to see His plans unfold!

 Grand Staff Ministries Care Center                Sipete, Swaziland

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Our first care home was completed earlier this year, and the Matsebula’s moved in with Angel in April. We will build 11 more homes on this site, each one housing 12 children.  While in our hearts, this first one will always be “Angel’s Rest,” the official name on site is now Shepherd’s Care Homes.

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Patrick and Siza are pictured above with four of their five children, plus one of our security guards (they’re on site 24 hrs./day). This couple has been extensively trained for their position as house parents, overseers/mentors for other house parents who will come, pastors of our church plant, builder/contractor (Patrick), preschool teacher/ manager (Siza), sustainability agriculture, and more. They’ve also taken on extra duties to oversee our sponsorship program in our four other locations until we hire another ministry partner, hopefully on my Jan. trip.

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Our precious Angel (right), now 15, chose earlier this month to leave the home to return to the squatter’s camp where her mother, brothers, and boyfriend still live. She loves us and knows how much we all love her, but by the time we raised the funds to build her a
place to live, she was already accustomed to being unsupervised. And sadly, also how to “earn” money from men, as so many girls end up doing. She was only a couple of weeks from completing 7th grade, but she dropped out. Our hearts ache for her, concerned about what will happen to her, wondering if things would’ve been different if we’d rescued her sooner. But we can’t hold her; we must leave her in God’s hands and pray she remembers His goodness and all she learned about what real love looks like. And we ask for His mercy and grace to send us girls earlier when possible, before those patterns of thinking and behaving are set.

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Meet Nokuphila (above, left) and her twin brother Philani! She is our newest little girl to move into Shepherd’s Care Home. She came to us severely malnourished, roaming from home to home in the village begging for food, because her parents are alcoholics and mentally ill. She’s responding to treatment, and got a root canal and crown, plus some fillings. Philani is deaf (not mentally ill or demon-possessed, as many villagers thought), so we placed him in the school for the deaf. He joins Nokuphila at the home during school breaks, and he’ll get an evaluation at the doctor and dentist while he’s there.

We’re still waiting on social welfare to complete paperwork on two more girls—a fifth grader who’s been repeatedly raped by her grandfather for three years, and one forced into slave labor by a relative.

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What’s Next: Our current building project is the feeding kitchen/preschool, pictured below. We still need about $15,600 to finish the building, then supplies. We’ll be able to feed and educate many children from the village who can’t live on the site, but who are still in great need.

We’re adding fencing to increase the number of chickens on site and to add goats. Sustainability crops will be planted as soon as the rains stop. The church meets in the home, often with 30 children crowded onto the living room floor. The next building needed is an office on site for GSM, with living quarters upstairs. Then a guest house of sorts with an open “parlor” for visits from the children’s relatives, when allowed. For safety reasons, we won’t allow the visitors in the children’s residential area on the site.

Here’s how you can . . . change the world!

Contribute to the $15,600 needed to complete construction of the feeding kitchen/preschool.

So many Swazi children are living without any adults to supervise them and provide for their daily needs. Many others are caring for sick parents. Eventually we will be able to feed every hungry child in the village of Sipete.

And at every meal, the children will hear Bible stories of the loving kindness of Jesus Christ.

The preschool will also serve children in the village, and they’ll hear about Jesus again, plus get a great foundation for learning.

Sponsor a Swazi ministry partner. It’s crucial that we have trustworthy ministers who love Jesus, speak the language, and know the culture. These individuals will assist in visits to homesteads, churches, and schools in the five areas we have sponsored children, so we can stay current on how the children are doing.  The regular contact allows them to develop godly relationships with each child that can lead to discipleship. The partners will also help teach the Bible lessons at the feeding kitchen. We have accepted assistance from another trusted Swazi ministry that will provide extensive training for our ministry partners.  I plan to hire at least one partner, and possibly two, when I’m in Swaziland next month. Annual  costs per partner are  approximately $2,400.


Become a monthly sponsor of . . . well, me as a missionary.  Even though I’m only in
Swaziland twice a year, the trips are still a major expense ($4,000 – $5,000 per person,
depending on the time of year).  And necessary in order to keep moving forward
effectively. Our board determined we also need at least one board member to go with
me every trip, so they get a firsthand picture of what is needed and how to accomplish it.
In January, my precious mama, Pattie Belden, will accompany me. She’s served faithfully
for 11 years and will finally get to see with her own eyes what she’s helped accomplish—
and to hug some of these sweet children at last!

My full-time commitment to run the ministry from this side of the ocean prohibits my taking on other employment. And 100% of child sponsorship goes directly to care for the children. So in order to meet the $30,000 for the trips and GSM’s administrative expenses, we rely on fundraisers and donations.  Thank you—your gift matters and keeps us going.

Abandoned, orphaned, and vulnerable children in Swaziland are lost lambs.
The Good Shepherd’s staff is grand enough to care for each one—through me . . .
. . .
and through YOU!

Contact us at: GSM, PO Box 321, Buhler, KS  67522                                            becky@grandstaffministries.com
Grand Staff Thrift Boutique: 215 N Main, Buhler                                                                www.grandstaffministries.com/donate.php 
(620) 543-6518 (this number doesn’t work when I’m in Swaziland)            worthfightingforblog.wordpress.com

                  “For in You [O Lord] the orphan finds love and compassion and mercy.”  Hosea 14:3b, AMP

Is God calling you to care enough to:

Go?        Swaziland Winter Mission Jan. 10 – Feb. 13
(1st half Jan. 10 – 28, 2nd half Jan. 27 – Feb. 13, or all)
Swaziland Summer Mission Early August
Long-Term Missionary in Swaziland (2 – 3 yrs)

Give?    See below for current needs and plans for 2018.

Help?    5 – 8 volunteers needed daily at the thrift boutique

Pray?     God’s leading as we select children
A couple to serve long-term in Swaziland
Grace, strength, and health so we can keep going!

Live at Peace–with everyone?

It’s Thanksgiving, and people all over the US are gathering with loved ones over more food than we can consume.  Norman Rockwell’s “Freedom from Want” gives us the smiling family, with three generations eager to let the meal begin.

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But real life doesn’t always match the picture.  Too often, some family members dread being in the same room with one or more of their relatives.  Harsh words, misunderstandings, perceived judgments, disagreements–all can cloud what is intended to be a day of focusing on how good our God is to all of us.  Especially when the offense has been brewing a long time, unresolved because one or both parties are unwilling to work through the issues.

This reaches past families, even into relationships between friends.  Even into relationships between individuals who both love Jesus.

The apostle Paul understood that some people are harder than others to make long-term peace with.  It’s as if they enjoy holding onto an offense or a grudge.  It feeds their sense of justification for remaining angry and bitter.  It can turn into a lifestyle of martyrdom, part of how they identify themselves as wronged at every turn.

Or in some cases, they simply have so much brokenness that even when they’ve called on Jesus to save them, they haven’t yet been able to open their hearts to receive His love.  So of course, they struggle to develop healthy relationships with other people.

It’s why Paul advised the Romans to just do their best.  “If possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”  Romans 12:18, Amplified

Sometimes it’s not possible to have a peaceful relationship with another person.

Maybe there is someone in your life who refuses to work out a disagreement.  You’ve tried, but she is unapproachable.  Your heart might be broken over the failed friendship–and made even worse when it’s a family member who is trapped in unforgiven offenses, made worse as they are replayed and reinforced over time.

Earlier this year a dear long-time friend of mine ended our relationship suddenly.  Both of us were at fault in our disagreement, but she refused to meet with me so we could talk it out.

I was devastated.  And months later, she still won’t talk to me.  I haven’t known how to proceed.  How do you make amends with someone who has erected such high walls around her heart?

I’ve mostly just left her alone and done my best not to take it personally.  No one is perfect.  We’re all messy.  It’s sad that each of us had some moments of falling short that left us worlds apart.  I pretty much resolved myself to pray for God’s best for her and move on.

This has meant forgiving her again, every time I think of what happened, especially the refusal to work it out.  It’s also meant fighting against the spirit of rejection that used to plague me so much when I was younger.  Those voices telling me that I’m not lovable, that I’m not worth the trouble in relationships, that no one will ever stick with me for the long haul, etc.  All lies from the pit of hell!  The battle has been to take those thoughts captive and member what’s really true: I am accepted in the beloved!  (Ephesians 1:6)

And the battle included refusing to cast all the blame on her, since “she’s the one” who refuses to be reconciled.  Oh, yes, that ugly part of me that wants to be right has had to be pushed back into the ground as I mortify (put to death and bury) the deeds of my sin nature!

It’s not been easy.  I’ve had to hit replay on choosing the responses God desires from me.  And I haven’t always succeeded.

But last week I had a vivid dream that seemed to have God’s imprint all over it.

It included the typical bouncing around, such as the setting changing without making much sense.  At one point, I was staying in a bed and breakfast with wonderful hosts, and I wanted to buy them a floral arrangement, but somehow I just couldn’t remember to order it while I was at the forist’s.  Then I was at our ministry thrift boutique, having a big work day and watching the amazing team work of our volunteers.

But the part that stood out as a message from the Lord was this scenario: I was alone in bed, and this friend was seated at my side.  It didn’t seem that I was sleeping or sick, yet she hovered over me, grasping my hand, and showing me the most tender love.  She was smiling.  She was supportive.  She had nothing but affection in her gaze, her smile, her grip.

friends holding hands

I woke up in an aura of joyful love and peace!  The image from the dream replays over and over in my thoughts.

Did I receive a message that she was going to forgive me and our relationship would be restored?  No.

But I did get a glimpse of what I believe eternity will look like: no more offenses.  No more discord.  Total acceptance and love, even between people who weren’t able to work through it all on this side of glory.

Does this mean we should quit trying to make amends with others with whom we have an offense?  Of course not.  Jesus taught us to go to the person–both the one who has offended us, and the one whom we’ve offended–to try to work it out. (Matthew 5:23-24)

And He also taught us to pray that His will is done on heaven, as it is in heaven.  Restoration is like a bit of heaven on earth, and we are called to pray for it to happen.  (Matthew 6:10)

But Paul reminds us it might not always be possible, and that’s going to end up being okay.  If we can do it in the here and now, we’ll have the delightful benefits that come from loving relationship between two broken people.

But if we have done everything we know to do, and the relationship is still severed, we can look eagerly to the Day when we will live in unity, with no offenses between us. That will be part of the glory of the reign of the Prince of Peace!

Peace to you as we all gather in the coming days of holiday festivities!


Staying Afloat

“Love is the ultimate sign of true discipleship (John 13:34-35). Learning to love others is a huge component of the disciple-making process. If we aren’t intentionally striving to get along with other people, we are not growing in this area; we are not becoming spiritually mature, despite the amount of biblical information we may have acquired.” Jim Putman & Bobby Harrington, Discipleshift
I’m sad when I see Christians who have given up on church in the sense of assembling themselves together with other believers. Yes, there is some great teaching online and on tv. But there is no interaction, no accountability, no iron sharpening iron.
Not even the necessity of learning to die to self in order to serve the other person.
Of course, we do this at home, and for sure that’s part of the learning curve God provided for us. But those are the people we’ve vowed to love. Real growth takes place when we humble ourselves in service to the body of Christ, where we are hospitable to one another and diving into the Word together. “Doing life together” is more than a religious catch phrase. It’s Christian life!
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And the blessing of the five-fold ministry described in Ephesians simply can’t be found electronically. Jesus set this up with a line of authority, not to control us, but to grow and equip us in local gatherings of His body.
I’m really not ranting. Rather, I’m reminding. There isn’t a huge portion of Scripture devoted to describing the church and what God expects of us–for our own benefit. But one key truth is in Hebrews 10:24-25.  “And let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works, not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as is the manner of some, but exhorting one another, and so much the more as you see the Day approaching.”
There are no perfect churches. But kind of like Noah’s ark–even though it stunk, it was the only thing floating. 🙂 Even when we’ve been hurt or disappointed–or disgusted–we still need other believers in the format God outlined for us.  Finding a church body to call home is worth the effort, because the storms of life hit hard.
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It’s part of His pattern to help us become mature followers of Jesus.

All I Want for Christmas

In 1944, second grade teacher Donald Yetter Gardner asked his students what they wanted for Christmas.  Almost all answered with a lisp because they were missing at least one front tooth.  He wrote the song “All I Want for Christmas Is My Two Front Teeth” in 30 minutes, never dreaming that  it would become a hit, sung by such well-knowns as Nat King Cole, Ray Stevens, George Strait, Danny Kaye with The Andrew Sisters, The Platters, The Three Stooges, and The Chipmunks!


Children all over the western world are still asked this question as part of their classroom writing assignments, while sitting on Santa’s lap at the mall, or by frantic grandmothers trying to decipher what is meant by Shopkins and Minecraft and drone video cameras.
In those same families, parents and grandparents strive to balance their deep love for the little ones that inspires gift-giving, with the glaring reality that most of these children don’t really need anything.  And truth be told, within hours or days, many of the new gifts will become part of an ignored pile of discarded toys.

Does this mean we should skip the gifts?  Or feel guilty for giving to our loved ones?  Of course not!  But each family might want to evaluate what is best for their situation. Here are some thoughts to consider:

•    Try not to give out of guilt. Presents can never make up for time our children want to share with us.
•    Consider the simple trend to give to the child just one thing from each category of “something you want, something you need, something to wear, and something to read.”  And let’s be honest, they don’t need this from their parents and grandparents on both sides and aunts and uncles!
•    Give the gift of time spent together.  Last year we started a new tradition with our older grandchildren. We still gave them stockings, but we took the northeastern kiddos to an indoor water park and took the Kansas kids to the bowling alley with the arcade. We loved the laughter and memory making! In the past, we’ve given our married children gift cards to a hotel, restaurant, and movie so they could enjoy a break from their busy schedules to just be alone together.

While we struggle with this first-world challenge, we all know that children in third-world countries have a much different list of what they desire.  When I asked our Swaziland friends how they celebrate Christmas, the one answer repeated most is that in good years, the children are allowed to “dish for themselves” when eating that day. In other words, for this one special meal, their food isn’t portioned carefully by the adults. They can put as much as they want on their plates and eat until they are full.

More than Christmas presents, orphaned Swazi children long to live with a “forever family” where their daily needs will be met. We hope to complete Angel’s Rest Orphan Home before the end of the year and move children in while I’m there in January, so we’re working on getting the furnishings provided.  Last week, a little girl around 10 years old was shopping in Grand Staff Ministries Play It Again Thrift Boutique with her mom and grandma. She noticed our trees with ornaments showing what is needed to furnish the home, and asked her mom if she could give up one of her own presents so they could provide something for a Swazi child. Her mom helped her choose a towel set for one of the children for $25. Heart-warming! We’ve enclosed a page showing what is still needed.

We know that most of you already give at this time of year to many worthy causes, near and far—bless you! If you’re all given out, we understand. But I have to ask, because all I want for Christmas is to see the dreams of these Swazi children become a reality.  So if you have the resources and the desire, we will welcome you joyfully to the team that is getting the home ready for them!

Can you, your family, or your small group help us furnish the home to make it ready for move in day?

Tracy and I wish you a very Merry Christmas that is “all you really want”—and a fruitful New Year!

Much love—Becky Spencer and Family

(We’ve included short blurbs below about our growing family, followed by updates on Angel’s Rest Orphan Home–we hope you’ll enjoy this part of our annual greeting–and share the ministry with your family and friends!)


Sara and her family moved back “home” to Kansas in February, making this grammy and grandpa very happy! Danny is the worship pastor at Crosspoint’s Sterling campus and manager at Ricoh, a printing company contracted with Kroger. Sara sings on the worship team when she’s off work as the salon manager at Hutchinson Mall’s new Ulta Beauty. Judah (6th grade) plays baseball, basketball, and trumpet. Nora (4th grade) continues to win first place in art competitions, including a blue ribbon at the KS State Fair, and loves to sing. Silas (the 2nd grade fella missing two front teeth) plays baseball and soccer, has a great singing voice, and is always the family entertainer!

Polly and her family are still in Haven, Kansas.  After back surgery, Josh is working for the city of Haven. Polly continues driving a school bus and working at Carriage Crossing Restaurant in nearby Yoder, and Dec. 10th she’ll take her state boards to become an EMT. This girl literally never quits!  MacKenzie (7th grade) was ready to go back to public school, so she’s at Yoder. Ethan (7th grade) loves sports and currently plays basketball, and Savannah (5th grade) keeps both of her siblings entertained, as you can see here.  They all attend the little Baptist church in Haven.


A lot can happen in a year. The interactions we enjoyed with Jeri last year were short-lived. Before 2015 was a memory, she pulled away from all of us.  Of course, we know she’s hurting, and hurt people, hurt people.  Her sweet little Claira Mae, born with so many birth defects, was relieved of her suffering in May, when she passed into the arms of Jesus. Jeri left the safe haven a family member had provided for her little family, returning to her boyfriend.  Junior (12 yrs.) is in a school for special needs, and Luressa (5th grade) seems to have caught up with his height. The older children are now 16 and 14, and we continue to put them in the Lord’s faithful hands as they blossom in their adoptive family. We also wait patiently as He works behind the scenes to bring healing to Jeri’s heart—His lovingkindness is the only thing that can truly soften one that is so embittered by a hard life.

Nathan and his family have enjoyed their home in nearby Hutchinson. He is still in management at Sunshine Meadows Retirement Community here in Buhler, where Diana remains the capable head nurse in the memory care unit.  Nate continues to work on his business degree with certification for long term care so that he can eventually serve in nursing home administration. He is still serving as an associate pastor at Victorious Life Church, where he and Diana keep providing amazing leadership to the youth. He’s been free from addictions for over 12 years now. Thank You, Lord Jesus!

Gabe (9th grade) has adapted well to high school. We can hardly believe he’s already been to his first formal—and he’s so active, it’s hard to catch him with the family long enough for a photo! He’s passionate about playing his trumpet for the band (marching band took state!), and he’s also singing in the choir and playing basketball. Caleb (5th  grade) is tackling—and solving—more sophisticated rubik’s cubes, loves singing, and played football this fall. Jordan (3rd grade) is one of the “smiliest” kids we know, and extremely happy to have her BFF/cousin Nora in the same school with her.  Josiah (2), better known as JoJo, is happiest when he has a ball in his hands—and doesn’t mind improvising with pumpkins, glass spheres, balloons–anything he can find that’s round! He also loves reading books and singing.


Benjamin and his family are still living in Michigan, near Amy’s family. Ben continues his service as the Worship Arts Minister and remains active with Amy’s help in youth ministry at Southpoint’s Huron campus. Amy is still a part-time x-ray technician at the hospital. Moriah (just turned 3 yrs.) is outgoing, smart (she’s been saying her ABC’s for months), and funny. She’s an awesome big sister to Selah Grace, who was born April 1st—and of course, we had to tease Benjamin, our family’s biggest April Fool’s jokester, for having a baby born on that date! Little Selah shows signs of being quite a talker (okay, you know you’re thinking it—yes, it runs in the family!), and she sure loves her big sissy!


Our Ashley and her family live here in Buhler; God has answered so many prayers for her!  She’s been clean and sober for 18 months, and Brian has been sober for about 5 months. He works for Gregory, a sign/graphics company, and she still has her job in housekeeping at Sunshine Meadows Retirement Community, both in Buhler.  Ashley is thrilled to finally have joint custody of her son Ayden again (3rd grade).  He, Alyssa (1st grade), Alex (kindergarten), and London (2 years old) will be joined by another baby brother or sister sometime next year, bringing our total grandchildren to 26!  This picture was taken the day they dedicated their children to the Lord at the Mennonite Brethren Church where they worship. The service included a loving mention of baby Honor, who would have been four years old Nov. 12th.

Justin is struggling. He and Jessica are getting divorced, both trapped by bad choices and the chains of addiction.  Her mom, Tammy, has custody of Addisyn (3rd grade) and Nathan Wray (kindergarten), and we’re thankful for the stability she provides for them.  Addi is playing basketball, loves to draw and sing, and made Principal’s Honor Roll. Nathan is all about Star Wars and soccer, and just mastered riding his bike without training wheels. They live in Norman, Oklahoma.

Justin is in nearby Purcell, OK, and has worked at Silver Star Construction for 8 months. He’s found a church with a pastor that checks up on him. What I said last year bears repeating: the lifestyle that accompanies addiction robs everyone, not just the addicts. Too many of you know firsthand what this battle is like, but let’s all keep fighting on our knees, alongside our loved ones trapped by this vicious enemy. The innocent children affected are worth it, but so are the addicts. Don’t give up!


Anna and her husband Ben live here in Buhler, which of course, we enjoy. They attend Kalos Christian Fellowship with us, and Anna helps me lead worship. He is working with his dad at MidWest Ford, learning to be a mechanic. Anna is staying at home to better care for herself, especially because her prayers have been answered: she is expecting a baby girl in March!  They’re naming her Eliza, and carrying this little gal has already taught Anna something about the sacrifices we make as parents. She is giving herself the best diabetes care she’s ever given previously. We still appreciate your prayers for her, because she doesn’t sense when her blood sugar is low as well as she used to; she’s had seizures three times, which is always scary. But we are very proud of our girl for making such a valiant effort, and for the growth we see in both of them as they prepare to be parents.


This year Tracy and I celebrated our 40th anniversary, 8 years operating the bed and breakfast, 10 years since founding Grand Staff Ministries, and 22 years of his work at Takako America. Grand Staff Ministries Play It Again Thrift Boutique in downtown Buhler has been so blessed, we’re expanding into the building just south of us! Kalos Christian Fellowship meets in our home for now, and we’re grateful to see how close-knit our small group has become. We haven’t “broadcast our existence” because 1) we don’t have anyone to care for the children,  2)  the Lord hasn’t sent us co-pastors yet, and 3) it seems that we are in exactly the season God has for us as we form a base of Jesus-followers committed to the Lord and each other.  2016 rings in the big “6-0” for both of us, and frankly, we’ve been pushing so hard that serious illnesses took us by surprise.  Read what our precious Savior, Jesus, miraculously did for us in the previous post.


What’s Next: As you can see, Angel’s Rest is nearing completion. We hope to dedicate it and move children in this January. The vision on this site in the village of Sipete will proceed as funds are available:

  • Start the church
  • Launch a feeding program for children in the village
  • Plant crops and add livestock
  • Construct a small office for GSM
  • Build a preschool
  • Build additional orphan homes


In Feb., the Lord led us to our first house parents, Patrick and Siza. They have an obvious call to care for orphans, and they are well-equipped/trained also to pastor the church, manage the preschool, implement sustainability projects, and mentor future house parents in the other orphan homes we’ll build. And our Angel, now 15, is already staying with them, where she is safe, wanted, loved, and doing much better at school. Praise the Living God, as soon they will move into the home where other children will also find a safe haven in the form of a family!

For in You [O Lord] the orphan finds love and compassion and mercy.” ~ Hosea 14:3b, AMP

Abandoned, orphaned, and vulnerable children in Swaziland are lost lambs.
The Good Shepherd’s staff is grand enough to care for each one—through me . . .
. . .
and through YOU!

Do you want to:

Go?        Swaziland Winter Mission Jan. 8 – 28
Swaziland Summer Mission July 22 – Aug. 12
Long-Term Missionary in Swaziland (2 – 3 yrs)

Give?    See below what’s needed to furnish Angel’s Rest so kids can move in this Jan.!

Help?    5 – 8 volunteers needed daily at the thrift boutique in Buhler, KS

Pray?     God’s leading as we select children
A couple to serve long-term in Swaziland
Grace, strength, and health so we can keep going!

Save the Date: Sat., April 29, 2017
Swaziland’s Heartbeat of Hope:
Silent & Live Auction and Free Banquet in Hutchinson, KS

Contact us at: PO Box 321, Buhler, KS  67522
Play It Again Thrift Boutique: 215 N Main, Buhler
(620) 543-6518, becky@grandstaffministries.com

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All I Want for Christmas . . .  Is to have Angel’s Rest Orphan Home furnished
so I can move into my forever home in January!

This is the desire of the children in Swaziland, Africa, who are waiting to become part of a loving family.  The house will become home to twelve orphaned/vulnerable children.

Grand Staff Ministries Play It Again Thrift Boutique will help with ongoing monthly expenses of the home, and we invite you, your family, church, small group, or organization to consider choosing something from the list to provide for the kids!

If you would like to participate, you may mail your check with the description of which item you want to provide, go to the donate page on our website, or bring it into the thrift boutique:

GSM Play It Again Thrift Boutique                                          (620) 543-5298 or 543-6518
PO Box 321
215 North Main
Buhler, KS  67525

Here are the specific things still needed:

6 bunkbeds @ $225 each
5 twin mattresses @ $60 each
10 sets twin bedding @ $95 each
7 wardrobes @ $375 each
5 towel sets @ $25 each
7 trash cans @ $15 each
Iron @ $15
Living Area:
2 corner sofas @ $650 each
Another sofa @ $600
2 end tables @ $140 each
Coffee table @ $100
Shelving/storage @ $500
Welcome/mud mat @ $25

Stove @ $375
Refrigerator @ $900
Silverware @ $70
Mops/Buckets @ $20
Stock Pots @ $275
Pots and pans @ $200
Baking pans @ $65
Large trash can @ $25

2 backpacks (prices vary—you can purchase and bring to us and we’ll take them with us)
School supplies ($25 per child; we purchase there and fill the bags)

4 Goats @ $80 each
Thank You for Your Support!



Two Miracles at the Spencer House

Tracy and I have had a challenging season.  Such is life, and we feel it as we age.  (Yes, we have to admit we’re wrapping up the autumn “middle age” years and entering the first stages of winter.)

Tracy’s trouble showed up May 7th. He was putting up slat board at our ministry thrift boutique, when he started having chest pains. Tracy’s not a complainer, so when he told me what he was experiencing, I went on high alert.  Even more so when he described the pain as a “6” on a scale of 1-10.

I wanted to call 9-1-1, but he became agitated and insisted he’d be fine. Adding that he didn’t have time for that, because when he finished my project at the store, he needed to put a new carburetor in his truck. He was so cantankerous about it, I wasn’t sure what to do. Naturally, I didn’t want to take a hit on our budget if he was really okay, but neither did I want him to postpone life-saving treatment.

I gave my kids a quick Facebook call for help and prayer.  Our oldest, Sara, immediately said she was going to call 9-1-1 if I didn’t. When I told Tracy to prepare himself for a visit by the paramedics, he angrily called Sara and talked her out of it. Our daughter-in-love Diana is a nurse, and she suggested that if he refused to be seen, we should at least give him some aspirin. He took it and grudgingly agreed to let me know if the pain continued or got worse, and also promised to see his doctor on Monday.

Because Tracy naturally tends to be persistent (which sounds much nicer than stubborn), I didn’t recognize that becoming resistant or even belligerent is one of the symptoms of a heart attack.

He got through the weekend okay and finished his to-do list. Then worked all day Monday before meeting me at same day care early evening.

And was immediately sent to the ER, where they determined he’d had a heart attack that Saturday.  They look for three things:

  1. chest pains
  2. heart enzyme elevated
  3. changes in the EKG while in the hospital

Tracy had all three.  They kept him overnight and scheduled a heart catheter, promising that while they did it, they’d be able to insert stints to open up any blockage.

I gave Tracy a pep talk about how well he’d do since he was otherwise in good health.  I thought I was trying to help him, but I didn’t realize until later that I was reassuring myself. My daddy died the day he had his heart cath.  All these 18 years, I thought he got the stints, but as we went through this with Tracy, Mama clarified that Daddy didn’t even get them; there was too much damage. But I was comparing Daddy’s poor health, since he had emphysema and leukemia on top of his heart damage, whereas Tracy only had the heart issues.

The cardiologist explained that the procedure would take about an hour and a half.  Mama met me in the waiting room, so I scooted out to get a drink of water. Before I could even get back, she had called me, saying the doctor needed to talk to me.

I panicked! Why was he needing me after less than twenty minutes?! I raced back to the family consulting room, fearful of dreadful news.

The doctor was calm as he explained there was no blockage or heart damage. I was in shock!  What?! Are you sure? He seemed almost amused by my response, and pulled up the video of Tracy’s procedure.  Sure enough, his arteries were clean as a whistle!

I didn’t know what to make of it. Did he really have a heart attack? This cardiologist said that a “regular” doctor would call it one, but cardiologists would not, since there was no evident cause for it.

A couple of weeks later, I had to meet Tracy back at the ER because he was having chest pains again. This time, there was no evidence of a heart attack. I knew the medical bills were piling up, so I asked the doctor in charge how to know whether or not to come in. He said it’s always prudent to come in with chest pains. I asked him his opinion as to whether or not Tracy really even had a heart attack, and he went over the three criteria again. He definitely had one, but the doctor said they call it a type B heart attack when they don’t know why it happened. He explained that there might be a tiny bleed somewhere that they couldn’t find.

A few weeks later,  a trauma nurse who specializes in cardiac told us that she knows exactly what happens in the type B heart attacks. Her answer: God healed the patient between the heart attack and the heart cath.

I can’t say for sure that Tracy had a miracle. But he was sick, and then he was well. Without stints. We’ll take it!

Fast forward to mid-Sept. I’d had several bouts of diverticulitis over the last few years, but this was my second round in less than two months. So Dr. Jackson ordered a CT scan of my intestines. (Diverticulosis is a condition where you have “pockets” in the intestines that can become infected. It’s extremely painful and requires two strong antibiotics since the gut has so  much bacteria. Not fun and I was about to find out, damaging.)

The scan revealed a thickened place in my intestine, so he scheduled an appointment for me to see the surgeon on Sept. 29th. I went in ready to fight for any other options than surgery. But the doctor told me there was no negotiation: the thickened place was likely scar tissue from the repeated bouts of diverticulitis, and it was nearly blocked. If I put off surgery, I would end up in an emergency situation that could be life-threatening.

I cried in his office, and while the nurse handed me a couple of tissues, he tried to assure me that most people come through this surgery just fine.

I said between catches in my throat that it wasn’t the surgery that most concerned me; it was the overwhelming to-do list. I’m already behind on everything, and while we have amazing volunteers at Play It Again Thrift Boutique, we don’t have enough of them yet. I was picturing the nightmare of finding enough help for my absence during recovery, plus still having enough people for when I’m in Swaziland in January and on a much-needed family vacation in February.

He told me people would just have to come up to the plate, and I’d just have to get this done. He ordered a barium enema for the following Thursday so he could see where the diverticulosis was worst so he could also remove that part during the surgery.

For the entire week, I felt overwhelmed. Several people told me that maybe this was God’s way of getting me to slow down and get some rest.

But honestly, have you ever felt rested after recovering from surgery?  Nope, me neither! And if I’m already so behind on what needs done, how would it help to be even further behind? I just couldn’t believe that God would want this for me. It would take a toll on my physcially, plus give us another huge hit in our finances.

I kept saying that if God wanted me to rest–and He does–then He would send more volunteers to the store. He didn’t need to accomplish that by making me have surgery.

Admittedly, I had some fears. For months, I’d become more tired, to the point where I could hardly lift my arms at times. It was different from any weariness I’d ever experienced–total exhaustion physically. I had to push myself every day to keep up with the very basic requirements of life.

In addition, even though neither doctor had uttered the “c” word, I knew that colon cancer could also cause the thickness in my intestine, and that, coupled with the deep exhaustion, had me concerned that I would get bad news. So don’t get the impression that I was  tower of faith, any more than Tracy was. I had to choose to trust the Lord, through my many concerns.

And the bottom line was, I knew God would take care of us, no matter how it turned out. Tracy fasted and prayed, many of our loved ones prayed, and I just did my best to keep giving it to the Lord. I remembered what He had done for Tracy between the heart attack and the heart cath. It wasn’t like Tracy was a great giant of faith for his own healing; he was still in denial that anything was even wrong! Smile. So I took comfort that even in my weakness and fear, God would bring good out of it all and do what was the very best for me. My belief and the confession of my mouth was that He is my healer, and He is good in all His ways.

I endured the humiliating preparation and procedure, then headed upstairs to wait for my turn to see the surgeon. When he entered the examining room, he seemed extremely uncomfortable and wouldn’t make eye contact with me. Fear gripped me–was he trying to figure out how to tell me that I had cancer, since I was alone at the appointment?

He finally looked at me and said he didn’t see what he expected to see in the xrays. (“Okay, okay, is that good or bad?!” I screamed inwardly.)

With a baffled expression, he explained that there was not a thickened area anymore. And the diverticuli was so small, it didn’t require surgery. Note that my two previous colonoscopies did not suggest small diverticuli, nor did the repeated bouts of infection!

He said I did not need surgery, after all! I broke out into a huge smile and proclaimed that to be very good news. He told me that it wasn’t necessary to avoid nuts, seeds, popcorn, etc., but that rather I should eat high fiber and low fat in order to keep the gut healthy.

Yes, sir!  Both Tracy and I have made changes in our diet. When God gives you a second chance, you want to do your part. Tracy’s has lost about 25 pounds and is at the weight his doctor wants him at. I’ve been eating the high fiber, low fat diet my surgeon recommended, too, since last week’s good news.

Every day in this week since that wonderful news, I’ve regained more of my strength and energy. I didn’t even realize how sick I’d become until now, when I’m feeling more like my old self! I’m so grateful!

Does this mean for sure that I had a miracle? I don’t know for sure, but if it looks like a duck and sounds like a duck and smells like a duck, it’s probably a duck! Just like with Tracy’s end result, I’ll take it! And I’ll give God glory for the very-best-news outcome!

A few people who claim the name of Jesus Christ believe miracles have all passed away, and they’re not for today. Most of us believe He still heals sometimes. Our issue isn’t whether or not He can.

It’s whether or not He will.

I can promise you that Jesus Christ is the same, yesterday, today, and forever. (1) He said that when the people saw Him during His life on earth, they were actually seeing the Father. (2)

Jesus didn’t turn away anyone who came to Him for healing. (3) There were times people didn’t get healed–like in Nazareth, where they focused on His humanity instead of His divine nature. They didn’t have much faith there, so He couldn’t do much, other than heal a few people. (4)

But never did someone ask for His powerful touch, only to leave disappointed. Even the Canaanite woman, who had no “right” to the promises of God, still received healing for her daughter. Her faith was tenacious! Jesus told her that healing was “the children’s bread,” to which she replied that even the puppies under the table get the crumbs. She knew He had the power to heal her daughter, and she wasn’t going to leave without it! Jesus loved her faith, and He granted her request. (5)

When Jesus taught His disciples to pray, He instructed them to ask that His will be done on earth, just like it’s always done in heaven. (6)

Too often, we’re afraid to believe that His will is to heal us. We hide behind the safe, “if it’s Your will” then please do it.

But He already showed us what His will is. Jesus was and is the express image of His Father, so the way He treated sick people is the way God the Father wants to treat them.

We realize we don’t always get the miracle. Nobody completely understands why.

But when we read the entirety of Scripture, it becomes clear that it’s always something on our part, not on God’s.

Some try to explain it away by saying that His ways aren’t our ways, nor His thoughts our thoughts.

But keep reading. The next part says that they are higher than ours, not lower! (7)

If any earthly father purposely harmed his child in order to teach a lesson, such as breaking his arm or giving him something bad to eat or drink, he would be prosecuted–and rightly so!

Why would we think that our good, heavenly Father would be worse than that? That He would bring sickness or pain on us in order to teach us a lesson?

The Word of God is our manual for learning His nature and ways. Yes, He sometimes allowed or even brought physical punishment on people, but only on those who opposed Him. Never on His precious children who loved Him. Just as a loving earthly father might have to give consequences for willful disobedience–and even a spanking where there is padding, and it will sting, but not cause harm–so also, our heavenly Father sometimes has to allow us to have the consequences of our choices so we will learn and grow.

But never in ways that will actually bring harm to us instead of help.

I’d love to go into the Scripture about Paul’s thorn in the flesh, but that will have to wait for another day. Or maybe even until my next book is completed. Time constraints often win against my desire to share what He’s taught me.

For now, suffice it to say that Tracy and I are rejoicing in the goodness of God towards us. We can’t thank Him enough for what He has done!

He didn’t do it because He loves us more or because we have more faith than other people or anything thing like that. As you’ve read above, neither of us were towering pillars of strength and faith when we were facing our challenges!

All we could do was keep asking and putting our trust in our faithful God. It kept coming back to His goodness, not anything about us. On the times in our lives when we didn’t get a miracle, it didn’t make us second-class Christians. Nor does it make you one if you don’t get the supernatural answer. It just means that we aren’t going to understand everything, nor will we always come to that place of faith and trust. Sometimes we’re like the father with the demon-possessed son who said, “Lord, I believe; help Thou my unbelief.” (8)

My encouragement to you is that He is no respecter of persons. (9) The same God who healed us also wants to touch you.

We know He would have proven faithful, even if we’d had to go through the longer process of medical attention and surgeries and recovery. We would never tell anyone to stay away from the doctor! God uses them every day, and we are grateful that we live in a country with such amazing health care!

But our trust must always be in our good, faithful God, no matter what life throws our way. Don’t err on the side of caution; err on the side of faith! Every good and perfect gift comes from the Father of lights! (10)

And today, I knew I needed to be a witness to His wonderful, miracle-working power.

Praise to the God who can–and will–and does!


(1) Hebrews 13:8
(2) John 14:7,9
(3) Matthew 4:24, 8:16, 12:15; Luke 16:19
(4) Mark 6:1-6
(5) Mark 7:25-30
(6) Matthew 6:10
(7) Isaiah 55:8-9
(8) Mark 9:24
(9) Acts 10:34-35
(10) James 1:17




Go Tell It on the Mountain!

(Over the hills and everywhere!)

View from the mountain where Walk by Faith
Church is located in Bhunya, Swaziland.

 mountain from Bhunya church 2015If you’re like me, you probably just started singing to fill in the admonition of what we’re to tell: that Jesus Christ is born!

At this time of year, it’s easy to do that with Christmas cards, yard art, and programs that proclaim His birth.

But in recent years, in some parts of the United States, non-believers have pushed to remove nativities from public view, insist on employees wishing only “happy holidays” to their customers, and strip the kids’ programs of any songs about Jesus. Some would like to force us to keep our “Christ in Christmas” behind closed doors—not even visible in our own yards or church signs.

How much more do we get a push back if we dare to share of the Savior who outgrew the manger?

Let’s be honest: sharing the Good News of the Kingdom of God goes way past telling people that Jesus was born. To be effective, we need to get to the part about how He came to take away the sins of the world, right? I mean, isn’t that why we used to order cases of the little booklet “The Four Spiritual Laws” years ago? The very first point was to get people to agree that they were sinners so they’d recognize they owed their lives to pay for that sin, and we could move on to the good news that Jesus died in their place.

But where do we start in a world that doesn’t even believe their actions are sinful—in a country where mentioning sin labels you a hater, where laws are passed to legislate immorality, where evil-doers froth at the mouth to actually harm us instead of just muzzling us?

I believe we must start with prayer. We invite our supernatural God to show us those He wants to reach through us, then ask Him to get involved in the lives of the people He has placed in our paths for His purposes. We ask Him to guide us and soften their hearts. Then we prepare. That might include reviewing Scriptures, baking cookies to share, studying a culture, or applying for a passport. Finally, we propel—we actually go!

I live on the prairie, but sometimes sharing Jesus still requires me to climb over a mountain of fear, rejection, and judgment. We all might face an uphill battle trying to find the right way to reach a hardened heart.

It won’t come through browbeating anyone to convince him he’s a sinner. That’s not good news, and deep down, he already knows he’s a mess. What he’s aching to know is that he’s still loved, in spite of how ugly his heart has become. When we listen with the goal of understanding a person’s pain, rather than just to strategize our next speech, he is convinced we truly care about him. And that kind of love opens his heart to the love of God that birthed it in us. We can then proclaim the wonderful plan of salvation that brings peace and joy and life—while there is still time to receive it.

“How beautiful on the mountains are the feet of those who bring good news, who proclaim peace, who bring good tidings, who proclaim salvation, who say to Zion, ‘Your God reigns!’” (Isaiah 52:7)

What mountain is God asking you to climb in the coming year so you can share
the love of Jesus with someone desperate for Good News?

Tracy and I wish you a very Merry Christmas and an adventurous, mountain-climbing,
Good News-proclaiming New Year!
Much love—Becky Spencer and Family

cropped pic of sara's family 2015

Sara and Danny are in a season of transition. They’re still in Virginia, but they sold their house and are now in Colonial Heights. Judah (5th grade), Nora (3rd grade), and Silas (1st grade) all received awards at their new school and will be playing basketball this year. They love their nanny, Mr. Kris, who manages to move them through their homework, take them to their appointments, get them to practices, and feed them all. (Move over, Mary Poppins!) Danny is still leading worship at Destination Church, with Sara’s help, and she continues to minister to women at her salon, Beauty from Inside.

polly's kids 2015

Polly and Josh are still raising their crew in Haven, Kansas. MacKenzie (7th grade) and Ethan (6th grade) are homeschooling, while Savannah (4th grade) is attending public school. The girls don’t have any interest in sports, but Ethan keeps everyone at games year round, since he plays all of them! Polly is still driving a school bus and working at Carriage Crossing Restaurant in nearby Yoder. Josh is off work right now because of some physical and personal challenges, so they’re staying at his sister’s for the time being. Polly is a real trooper and one of the hardest working mamas around!

Jeri and her kids 2015

We have been thankful to have some time with Jeri and her children in recent months after many years of distance. She was blessed to be able to move onto land some of her birth family owns, giving her space for her goats and a safe place for her and her children to live. Junior is 11 yrs. old and in a school for special needs, and Luressa is in 4th grade. Jeri’s new baby, Claira Mae, was born in October with many birth defects, so she’s still in NICU, but there’s a possibility she’ll be home for Christmas. The older children are now 15 and 13, and we continue to put them in the Lord’s faithful hands as they blossom in their adoptive family.

Nate's family 2015

Nathan and Diana were able to find a bigger house in nearby Hutchinson, but their children are still in Buhler schools. Gabe (8th grade) played football and now basketball, and he plays trumpet in the band and sings in the choir. Caleb (4th grade) is great at solving rubik’s cubes, still loves singing, and is, by his own admission, the class clown (he certainly knows how to make me laugh!). Jordan (2nd grade) seems beyond her years in her ability to filter what she hearts and sees, carefully determining whether or not it matches up to the Truth she’s been taught. Josiah turned one in July; we just learned he’s allergic to eggs and peanuts, so that’s keeping everyone on their toes. But oh, what a sweet little guy!

Nathan is still in management at Sunshine Meadows Retirement Community, and Diana is now the head nurse in the Alzheimer’s unit there. Nathan continues to work on his business degree with certification for long term care so that he can eventually serve in nursing home administration. He’s now an associate pastor at church, but he’s still serving the youth group. He’s been free from addictions for 11 years now. Thank You, Lord Jesus!

ben's family 2015

Benjamin and Amy are still living in Michigan, where Ben transitioned from Student Minister to Worship Arts Minister at Southpoint’s new church plant in Huron. They’re still involved in student ministry, and Ben leads worship and uses his creative side making videos to use during services. Their little Moriah Joy just turned two years old, and she’s going to be a big sister in April! We’re so excited to welcome our 24th grandchild soon, another girl, that they’ve chosen to name Selah (say-luh) Grace. Amy is doing great, balancing her mommy and ministry duties as she continues her work as an x-ray tech at the hospital.

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Tracy and I are so grateful to tell you that our precious Ashley is now seven months clean and sober. She and her husband Brian moved in with us in May, along with three of her children. She truly came home, not only to us, but also to the Lord. It hasn’t been an easy road since Brian’s sobriety didn’t last, and he hasn’t come to that place yet of being willing to take the help available. But we all continue to trust him to the Lord’s care while she juggles being a single mother with her job in housekeeping at the Sunshine Home here in Buhler. She and Alyssa (kindergarten), Alex (pre-K), and London (1 year old) just moved into a little house this month, which is one more huge step in her faith journey. We’re so proud of our girl! Now that she’s so settled, we all hope she’ll have more time with her older son Ayden (2nd grade), who is living with his birth dad in nearby Hutchinson.

Ayden had eye surgery that wasn’t as successful as hoped, so looks like he’ll have another one in the future. Meanwhile, he likes to peek over the top of his patch and glasses! J

justin's family 2015

Justin has just finished his job custom cutting crops for a company based in Kansas, which means he should be able to join his family in Norman, Oklahoma, in the next couple of days. Addisyn (2nd grade and enjoying Girl Scouts) and Nathan Wray (pre-K) still live with their other grandma there, where his wife Jessica is working in retail.

We hope and pray that the coming year will bring them closer to being together as a family, but again, the lifestyle that accompanies addiction robs everyone, not just the addicts. Too many of you know firsthand what this battle is like, but let’s all keep fighting on our knees, alongside our loved ones trapped by this vicious enemy.

The innocent children affected are worth it, but so are the addicts. Don’t give up!

anna and ben 2015

Anna surprised us by throwing together a quick wedding in September to Ben Harper, a young man from our home school group she’d been seeing for almost two years. They’re living nearby in Hutchinson, where he works with disabled adults. Anna cooks at The Bull’s Eye Diner in Yoder. She seems very content making their little house a home. Ben’s wedding gift to Anna was a guitar, which was evidence of how much he understands her passion for music. They would very much like to start a family, which of course is challenging for type 1 diabetic mothers, and she no longer senses as well as she used to when her blood sugars are dangerously low. We greatly appreciate your prayers for our “baby” who understandably wants a baby of her own.

tracy and becky 2015

This year Tracy and I celebrated our 39th anniversary, 7 years operating the bed and breakfast, 9 years since founding Grand Staff Ministries, and 21 years of his work at Takako America. Even with all that “steadiness,” it’s been a year of transition for us. First, Grand Staff Ministries finally opened Play It Again Thrift Boutique in downtown Buhler, so by God’s grace, I’ve added working five days a week to the mix! And second, after much prayer and soul-searching, we are answering the call to make disciples by starting a non-denominational church in Buhler. We will officially start meeting in February, and some dear friends are praying about joining us as co-pastors/planters. We’re so happy for the privilege of serving God together! J

becky and angel 2015

We are overflowing with gratitude for everyone who has helped raise funds for the orphan home in Swaziland. In April, we’d raised about 40%, and in May, my precious writer friend, Barb Haley, was moved by the Lord to commit to the rest it will take. We will need an additional $25,000 (approximately) to get water and electricity installed for the home, and by the time it’s built, the thrift boutique will be bringing in enough to cover ongoing expenses.

The picture above is Angel with me in July, the girl whose plight urged us to build the home sooner, not later. She’s just one of many who cry out to God at night . . . thank you for helping us show them His love in tangible ways!

Prayer Requests/Needs:

  • Tracy can’t go with me to Swaziland in January (est. 15th – 29th), and I am concerned about driving alone. Please pray for at least one person to accompany me—either another woman or a couple. We will enroll children in school, distribute book bags and school supplies, and finalize decision on where to build the orphan home. Contact us immediately if you’re interested in going!
  • Grace, strength, energy, and health to keep up with ministry/work demands
  • Wisdom as we select land for the orphan home to be built on.
  • Full-time missionaries for GSM in Swaziland
  • More volunteers at the thrift boutique (we need 3 – 4 per day)
  • 65 back packs to take in January, plus $20 x 65 to purchase school supplies in Swaziland
  • 1 sponsor of 8 children had to discontinue because of a change in her finances; we still need sponsors for 5 of those children.
  • Construction of the home will require me to make more trips to Swaziland; it’s about $3800 to go each time, so we will need additional funds for those mission trips, plus teams of people to help us build.


Abandoned, orphaned, and vulnerable children in Swaziland are lost lambs.
The Good Shepherd’s staff is grand enough to care for each one—through me . . .
. . .
and through YOU!

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Am I an Adulteress? (Part 2)

(If you haven’t read Part 1 yet, please scroll to the bottom and start there. Thanks!)

Since Gene had just declared his love for me, I’m sure my reaction surprised him. Through angry tears, I spit out that he couldn’t throw around the word “love” without actions to follow it. I challenged what he planned to do about the love he claimed.

We went from ecstatic to miserable as realization dawned on us that we were making a mess we might not be able to crawl out of. I insisted that he needed to go back home before we did something drastic. He agreed to go, but begged me to pack suitcases and go with him, bringing my children along.

I ached to escape with him to pursue the happiness we were sure we could give one another. But the fear of God finally gave me the strength to send him away–without me.

Pure agony.

Not only because my heart was ripped in two, but also because I felt completely betrayed by God. I felt like He had tricked me into marrying someone who could never make me happy, adding salt to the wound by sticking to His “rules” that wouldn’t permit my being with the one man who did.

I thought that obeying God meant resigning myself to a miserable existence the rest of my life. But the thought of being judged for all eternity sounded even worse, so I surrendered to what I knew was right.

It took me seven years to get Gene completely out of my system. And longer than that to get free of the guilt of my sin.

Because even though we hadn’t had sexual intercourse, I knew my desire for him–the lust and unfaithfulness in my heart–still condemned me.

Jesus said that just harboring the evil desire makes us guilty of adultery in our hearts. (Matthew 5:28)

I have to be honest; Gene isn’t the only man I’ve been attracted to, even since marrying Tracy. I never acted on the attraction with anyone else. Before Gene, I judged others who fell into that kind of sin. And after Gene, I didn’t want to ever again experience the separation my guilt put between God and me.

But it’s an area of weakness for me that I eventually realized I needed to run from. Paul told young Timothy to flee from youthful lusts, and I learned to do the same.

I act differently around men now. I will never become close friends with a man again. I don’t flirt–I know now it’s never harmless. I keep my distance and refuse to entertain even the idea of being with anyone else besides Tracy.

See, I learned that when God determined what is right and wrong, He did it with our best interest at heart. At the time of my temptation, I falsely assumed He didn’t care about my happiness. But through the years, I’ve discovered that all of His “rules” are formed from His deep love for me–and for you.

It would take an entire book to share the story of the surprise God had waiting for me as I finally discovered that Tracy was actually exactly the man I needed. (And I wrote that book! When Prince Charming Falls off His Horse . . . and you’ve become his nag!)

But for now, let’s just go back to the original question: am I an adulteress?

Some people would say yes and condemn me forever. Others would say no and point out I’m no worse than others.

But what does God say?

As defined by Scripture, I used to be an adulteress. But one of the main things that makes this Gospel of Jesus Christ such good news is that I don’t have to be that person anymore! And neither do you, no matter what your area of weakness is.

“And you He made alive, who were dead in trespasses and sins, in which you once walked according to the course of this world, according to the prince of the power of the air, the spirit who now works in the sons of disobedience, among whom also we all once conducted ourselves in the lusts of our flesh, fulfilling the desires of the flesh and of the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, just as the others.”

And then two of the best words in all of the Bible: “But God . . . .” (Ephesians 2:1-4a) Talk about words changing everything! Paul goes on to explain how, because of God’s great love for us, He made us alive in Christ, saving us and changing us into people who now fulfill the good works He created for us to do. (from Ephesians 2:4b-10)Freedom by Cindy Sheehan

By His grace, I have a new identity. I will never go back to being that woman with a weakness for men. I’ve been translated from the kingdom of darkness into the light of His love and grace, changed into someone who serves Him and others.

Such joy! I can hold my head up in gratitude, free from shame.

And so can you!

Please let me know if you would like help to find this new identity in Jesus Christ or to ask for prayer.

Am I an Adulteress? (Part 1)

I was more vulnerable than I’d ever been in my life.

It was the summer of 1986, and it wasn’t just the Kansas sun that was heating up.

So was my hidden passion for Gene*, a man I was falling in love with . . . a man who was not my husband.

Sometimes I think guilt is the caregivers’ natural state. Parent ...

Our friendship started innocently enough two years before. Both of us were singer/songwriters, and we got to know each other well while we worked together on music projects at church.

It really didn’t take very long for the friendship to grow into attraction. At first I enjoyed the seemingly harmless flirting. We had so much in common, and it felt right to spend hours at the piano, sharing our songs, encouraging each others’ gifts. He seemed to understand me so much better than my husband Tracy did. And since he didn’t have a full-time job, he had the time to devote hours of attention to me.

I found it easier and easier to compare him to my husband, finding Tracy lacking in the areas Gene seemed to meet my deepest needs.

And when Tracy started his new job in Kansas while I stayed in the south so our children could finish the last three weeks of school, Gene and I took advantage of our last few days together. But I was still just playing a fantasy game with no intention of pursuing our relationship.

Until the day he told me he was attracted to me.

Spoken words change everything.

I admitted that I was also attracted to him, and we became desperate about the upcoming move. I begged him to come for a visit. And the day our moving trailer pulled away, we clung to each other in a final embrace, only able to pull away because of the promise of his visit as soon as possible.

I spent the two months before he came preparing as if I were about to have a first date. I sunbathed to get a tan and worked to lose a few unwanted pounds. I tried different hairstyles and played with my makeup. We talked on the phone and planned for his vacation in my home.

And when he came, he swept me off my feet. While my husband was hard at work, Gene and I took my children to the library, danced in the kitchen while they napped, sang love songs to each other, and stole kisses when no one was watching. No sex, but we were playing with fire, ignorantly assuming the flames wouldn’t burn us.

One night about three weeks into his stay, while my family slept, he sat near me while I folded the laundry. He gently placed his hand over mine, over the washcloths, and waited for me to look into his eyes. Then he tenderly spoke the words we had avoided until that moment: he told me he loved me.

More spoken words that could change everything for us.

Would they drive me down a path that ended with a scarlet “A” tied around my neck?

Part 2 coming soon.

* Name changed to protect innocent parties.

Can God Possibly Smile on Same-Sex Marriage?

(This is the first of at least two articles I feel impressed to write on homosexuality. Before I start writing, I want to express my deep compassion and love for people from all sides of the issues. While I realize there is much debate and disagreement, even among those who call themselves Christians, I also believe with all my heart that God wants us to know what He actually intends for our sexual conduct.  While anyone is welcome to read this, I’m primarily speaking to those who are confused, but still want to please God. I humbly and lovingly submit what He has shown me on this topic.)

Disclaimer: this post is sexual in nature and might not be appropriate for some readers.  Parents, be aware and read it in its entirety before allowing your children to read it.

A few hours ago in Wichita, Kansas, about twenty same-sex couples were legally married, the first to do so in Sedgwick County. (*The legal road that led to today’s marriages has had many twists and turns, and it’s not over yet. For more information, see the notes at the end of this article.) During the group ceremony, one protester cried out, “God says, ‘No!'”

He was quickly drowned out by many supporters calling back, “God says, ‘Yes!'”

And one prominent banner had the words, “Wichita Clergy Supporting Marriage Equality,” emblazoned on the backdrop of a rainbow.

The crowd cheers as about 20 couples marry in a same-sex marriage ceremony on the steps of the Historic Sedgwick County Courthouse in Wichita, Kan., Monday, Nov.17, 2014.

Credit for picture given to Mike Hutmacher, The Wichita Eagle

So who is right? Where does God stand in this issue? Can we even know for sure? If more and more of God’s servants support same-sex marriage, does that mean God is also in favor of it?

If we want to know God’s will on the subject, it makes sense to look first at the Bible. Many people are familiar with Scriptures outlining what God had to say on the topic of homosexuality. (In case you aren’t, or if you want to review, here they are: Genesis 18:16-19:25; Leviticus 18:22; Leviticus 20:13; Judges 19:16-24; Romans 1:18-32; 1 Corinthians 6:9; 1 Timothy 1:8-10; and Jude 7.)

But I’d like to take a look at the institute of marriage to help explain why God’s opinion and intent is clear.

A quick google search turns up almost 5 million results describing marriage as a covenant with God. Most Christian churches teach that it’s far more than a mere legal contract; it’s a binding covenant promising fidelity for a lifetime. Most churches merely teach covenant as a promise before God.

But they seldom go into what seals a covenant, at least not as it applies to marriage. Particularly about what seals the covenant.

Want to know what it is? Blood!

This is true of other Jewish customs that required the blood of an animal to be shed in order to seal a covenant. Other cultures have also used blood to finalize the serious agreement between two or more individuals.

Those of us who were children in the 1950’s and 60’s likely remember pretending to be “Indian blood brothers,” making a small cut in the palms of our hands and mashing them into each other so our blood mingled to seal the deal.

That might seem too gory for a discussion on marriage. But stay with me while I explain how God actually made this an integral factor of this most precious covenant.

In the Old Testament (Deuteronomy 22:13-17), rules were explained about what to do if a man accused his wife of not being a virgin.  How could he possibly know whether or not she was or wasn’t?  By whether or not she bled when they had sexual intercourse for the first time.

The medical explanation is that the woman has tissue circling the vaginal opening; it’s called the hymen.  When she has sexual intercourse for the first time, the hymen is ruptured, and a small amount of blood is shed.

In today’s world, the hymen can also be ruptured in other ways–for example, by riding a bike or another sport, or by inserting a tampon into the vagina. So intercourse isn’t the only way for blood to be shed. (1)

But we are looking at God’s intent in creation, not the other possible ways this could happen prematurely.

Likewise, someone looking for a loophole might try to claim that blood can be shed during a homosexual act, but again, if we compare that to God’s intent, it’s apparent that there is no “seal” waiting to be broken in that kind of sex. The way God designed our bodies prepared a man and a woman to make a covenant with each other in marriage, promising fidelity for life, sealed by blood.

Even if a lesbian couple tries to manipulate the hymen to break it in order to try to seal a covenant, they’re only forcing an unnatural imitation of God’s intent between a man and a woman in which the penis penetrates the vagina, breaking the hymen naturally.

Of course, a majority of couples who marry in the USA today are no longer virgins, so they miss out on the somewhat mystical covenant God intended for married couples to enjoy. Does this mean their promise to each other is negated or impossible to keep? It doesn’t have to. But many–and in fact most–won’t ever enjoy the sacred joy that comes from knowing just one partner for life.

Those who choose to wait for marriage and remain faithful would be the first to tell us we don’t know what we’re missing. And God’s grace can extend to people who didn’t wait for marriage to become sexually intimate, because the marriage they’re finally committing to is of the nature He intended.

Likewise He makes allowances for those who divorce within the parameters He allows and those whose spouse has died and they are remarrying. In these instances, obviously the hymen was broken long before their marriages, but because they are engaging in a relationship He gave guidelines for within His approval, He still counts their commitment as a covenant before Him.

All the Scriptures that outline sexual behavior–for heterosexual and homosexual behaviors–show us not only God’s holiness, but also what behaviors are best for us. He truly desires our happiness. And as the one who created us, He knows best what will accomplish that long-term.

God’s issue with homosexuality isn’t with the marriage; it’s with the act itself. He calls it sin–missing the mark of His holiness.

It’s sad that this sexual sin is quickly condemned even by people who are engaged in other sexual sin, such as adultery or premarital sex or pornography. Because any sex that takes place outside of a marriage between a man and a women is sin.

But when we see what constitutes and seals a covenant, it’s obvious that it’s impossible for same-sex couples to seal a blood covenant unless they are stubbornly enacting a poor substitute for what God intended.

So can God smile on same-sex marriage? No. It’s like an oxymoron. He can’t bless what He has prohibited–an act that goes directly against the way He created us for covenant relationships.

I’ll follow this post with at least one more on the topic of homosexuality.

Until then, I am praying for those who are feeling conflicted in this lifestyle. There is help and hope–and a life of blessing waiting for those who are willing to surrender to God’s loving ways.

Until next time . . . you are worth fighting for.

* In a nutshell, here’s the background that led up to today’s events: 1) in 2005, Kansas voters overwhelmingly approved a ban on same sex marriage.  2) Same-sex couples continued to apply for marriage licenses. 3) Last month the American Civil Liberties Union filed a federal suit on behalf of a lesbian couple that had been denied a license. 3) Because the federal 10th Circuit Appeals Court struck down same-sex marriage bans in Oklahoma and Utah, the Johnson County chief district court judge authorized same-sex marriage licenses, stating that since Kansas is part of the same federal circuit, the ban can’t be enforced here, either.  4) State Attorney General Derek Schmidt filed a petition with the Kansas Supreme Court last month to block the marriage licenses until a ruling could be made on the constitutionality of the state’s gay marriage ban.  5) The United States Supreme Court ruled last week that the state had to lift the ban on same-sex marriage until the federal case is decided. (1) http://howshealth.com/how-to-tell-if-my-hymen-is-broken/ © 2009-12 Howshealth.com

Should a Nation Legislate Morality?

With the elections just one week from today, many of us are double checking where candidates stand on the issues that mean the most to us.

Others of us wonder if it does any good to vote when the tide of immorality seems to be sweeping away decency and any hope for change.

Recently someone very dear to me described her husband–a born-again Christian running for a political office–as “a strict constitutionalist. . . .  As such, he doesn’t believe the government can infringe on an individual’s free will or impose a particular religious view on citizens.”  She went on to say that government  can’t control or dictate the moral choices of its people.

My dear friends, as I humbly seek truth alongside you and our other brothers and sisters in the faith, I must strongly disagree.

As far as I can tell, every law is actually a moral judgment.  The society or the dictator or the king and queen—whoever is in rule—has decided what is right and wrong.

In a just government, this happens based on what is deemed best for that society as a whole, while considering what is also best for the individuals who live there.

Most societies have laws that make it illegal to steal.  The ramifications of that one seem more obvious than some others because we clearly see how theft affects the person who had the item(s) taken away from him.  Everything in us cries “Unfair!”  We want to see the thief brought to justice, including, but not necessarily limited to, making restitution.

Other offenses might become more blurred.  Many states in our Union still have adultery on the books as illegal, and even sexual intercourse between unmarried individuals.  That shocks some people in today’s world because unmarried sex is so common and generally accepted now.  But it’s technically illegal and could be prosecuted in many places.

It might seem that the decision about whether or not two people copulate outside of marriage is a personal one that is no one else’s business.  But if we take an honest look at how it has affected our society, we will have to admit that everyone pays the consequences of that choice.  According to the National Vital Statistics Reports, in 2012, 41% of births in the USA were to unmarried women. (Volume 62, Number 9, December 30, 2013) Single mothers are more than five times more likely to be poor than two-parent families.  Almost 46% of poor children are in a single-mother home, while only 9.5% of children from married-couple families are poor.  Out of all homeless families, 8 out of 10 are led by single mothers.  And get this–over 90% of all recipients of Temporary Assistance for Needy Families (TANF) are single-mother families.  (singlemotherguide.com)

While every situation is different, even this quick glance at the statistics shows us that the results of unmarried sex places an incredible burden on the public welfare system.

Please understand, I’m not passing judgment on anyone.  I’m a child of the 60’s and 70’s–graduated in 1974 and certainly had my own share of “law-breaking.”  I just didn’t happen to get pregnant.

And some of my grandchildren were born out of wedlock. They are every bit as cherished as the rest!

I’m merely pointing out how basically doing away with any prosecution of those who break this law (that makes a moral judgment on behavior) has been detrimental to our society.

The effects of ignoring some of our other laws aren’t as immediately clear. Homosexuality is still illegal in many states, even though same-sex  marriage is gaining ground all over the country. So many people are screaming loudly about the rights of the individual, yet few are accurately researching or reporting on what happens to every society that legalizes—and even embraces—homosexual behavior.  Without exception, society crumbles.

When the backbone of a society, which is the family, begins to crumble, there is no turning the tide back.  First we saw laws passed for people to obtain an “easy” divorce, followed closely by legalized abortion. At the same time, societal mores about “free love” and swinging couples took root.  Not surprisingly, the next phase is the push for same-sex marriage.

Does our society really seem better off now that it was in the 1950’s, before a screaming minority took over with their humanistic agenda to persuade everyone that morality is a relative issue, dependent totally upon the individual?

Obviously, the answer is no.  Children weren’t afraid to go to school back then.  Parents could let their kids ride bikes all over the neighborhood.  Everyone watched wholesome tv like “The Lone Ranger” and “The Little Rascals” and “Davy Crockett.”  We enjoyed a level of peace and decency that is gone, probably forever, replaced by school shootings, violence in the media, drug and alcohol addiction, gangs, and fear on every level of society.

To say that government can’t dictate morals to the people is missing the point of legislature entirely.  It’s actually the job of those who rule to determine what is allowed—or not.  And what do they base those freedoms and restrictions on?  What they’ve deemed best in the big picture.

In our great nation, our founding fathers determined that the laws God laid out in His Word were the best to live by.  Best for individuals and best for the whole.  We aren’t the only nation to have done this.  Even Hammurabi, whose laws were the first written code, closely resembled many of those Moses also received from God!  Not all, but many.

People know intuitively what is right and wrong because they have a conscience.  Unfortunately, many in the world today have ignored and silenced that voice until they no longer hear it calling them to what is right.

Just because some people are going to break the laws doesn’t mean those laws should be removed.  Rather, if they use their free will to break a law, then their freedom should be removed.  That might mean paying a fine, spending time in jail, or even giving a tooth for a tooth, an eye for an eye, or a life for a life.

Government can and must impose on a person’s free will—when that person chooses to break the laws of the land.

Our nation looks like freedom on steroids.  Those who wrote the constitution never intended that we would live in freedoms that are defined as every man doing what is right in his own eyes.  That’s nothing short of anarchy.  And it leads to the breakdown of our society.  It’s happening before our very eyes.

It just so happens that God’s laws are best for people and society in general.  It’s not “our fault” that His way is really best.

And it’s not wrong for our nation to adopt the legal system that rewards true freedom that considers the needs of not only the individual, but also society at large—nor to punish those that refuse to obey such laws.

Study Russia!  There’s no greater example of a nation that once loved God, but gradually at first–then rapidly, forcefully and brutally at the end–removed every reminder of Him from the public arena.  St. Petersburg was renamed Leningrad.  The national anthem used to say “God save the Tsar,” but the reference to God was removed.  (Sound familiar?)

We live in a nation built on freedom of religion, not freedom from religion.

This nation was founded on Judeo-Christian principles—the mores of the very Creator Who gave us the freedoms in the first place.  I can’t see that it’s possible to separate those freedoms from the God who wanted them for us most.  When we do, we end up with the rift we’re seeing now.  Secular humanism is the most active religion in our nation, even though they don’t want to be labeled publically as responsible for the mindsets of the people.  But they started their campaign to brainwash the masses decades ago; as far back as the early 1980’s, I had a copy of their manifesto that stated their objective clearly: to remove the “rotting corpse of Christianity” and replace it with secular humanism.  They vowed they would do it, not from pulpits, but from classrooms across the nation.

One of their main tenants of faith is that morality is relative, not absolute.  (It depends on the situation and individuals, not on a Divine Being.)  That mindset has taken over in the USA.  It has happened during my lifetime, and I’ve grieved to watch it take place.

Governments absolutely must control the actions of their citizens, if indeed those citizens have broken the law.  What would happen if murders or thieves or rapists were not controlled?  Anarchy, fear, chaos, etc.

And who decides murder is wrong?  What if the murderer felt strongly that he was born to murder?  That he was genetically predisposed to take the lives of others?  Most of us would agree that murder is wrong.  Period.  But what if there were a huge campaign in the media and political arena to paint murderers in a different light?  What if the climate of our society started having more compassion on them for why they feel the way they do?  What if they made a strong claim for the sense of fulfillment and wholeness they experience when they took a life?  I could go on and on.  It sounds ludicrous, but no more so than this same conversation would have sounded 50 years ago if we inserted homosexuality into the places that say murderer.

I say it again: laws are moral judgments about what has been determined to be right and wrong.  It’s just as important to obey laws about sexuality and murder as it is to obey the speed limit signs—and even more so in some sense.

For all of us who call ourselves by the name of Jesus Christ, this is a time to remember that we have a dual citizenship—we are Kingdom patriots first, then citizens of this great nation.

Moral issues must guide the voting of every believer, before economic and political concerns.  I wish every state had an abundance of wonderful candidates who would fit the bill on all arenas.  But as it is, most of us will have to settle for the least of all evils.  God, help us.

Remember, though, Jesus promised that if we seek His Kingdom and His righteousness first, then everything else we need will be added to us.  (Matthew 6:33)

I found this website to be extremely helpful in determining where candidates in my district stand on the issues: http://www.ontheissues.org/default.htm  If you scroll down, you’ll see a map of the USA.  Click on your state to get the info you need.  You’ll see quotes from your candidate, voting records, and more.  In fact, on the left you’ll see the names of the candidates, and you can click on those to learn more about that person.  In addition, on the right you’ll see a list of the issues that might concern you; if you click on those, you’ll see where the candidates stand on that issue alone.

Because they use only quotes and voting records, this site claims to be unbiased.

What makes a nation great?

“Righteousness exalteth a nation: but sin is a reproach to any people.”  Proverbs 14:34, KJV

“Uprightness and right standing with God (moral and spiritual rectitude in every area and relation) elevate a nation, but sin is a reproach to any people.” Proverbs 14:34 Amp

Please, vote your conscience—vote in accordance with what you know to be right, based on what Scripture teaches.  It is our only hope.